Let's Talk: Body Confidence

Wednesday, 27 August 2014

Hello Beauties! I hope you're all well and enjoying the week. Recently, I've been feeling really down about my weight and appearance, so much so that I've actually been going to the gym (if you know me, you'll know how surprising this is as I'm practically allergic to exercise!) and I've been feeling guilty every time I have a snack, etc which just isn't healthy. This all got me thinking about body confidence and while lying in bed listening to One Direction (as you do) I had a bit of a change of opinion. 

I'm 5ft 4", a UK size 12 and I don't have a thigh gap (never have, never will) and I'm completely okay with that. I no longer hate my body and consider myself to be fat and disgusting, because while I'm a little chubby, I'm not unhealthily over weight and despite not being able to strut into a club looking sassy in a crop top and hot pants, it's not impacting upon my life. 

I've come to realise that the things I consider to be 'flaws' aren't really flaws at all. I'm probably the only one who notices some of them (I've been repeatedly told off by my friends for hating my 'terrible' skin when they can't notice one blemish) and the people who do notice them don't matter. Instead, my biggest flaw is my self confidence and the way I put myself down. I've been told time and time again that I could go far if I had the confidence to believe in myself and I'm starting to realise that there's some truth in that. It's time I stopped putting myself down and hating on myself, because after all, treating myself like that gives others the right to do the same. 

Now, I'll never be a tall, slim model and I wouldn't expect to be with the amount of burgers I consume, but it's time to learn to love what I have because it's not going to change and I shouldn't want it to. It's true what they say, happy girls are the prettiest, and I'm finally starting to understand that, a frown looks good on nobody (even if you have a thigh gap). And maybe, one day someone will be like 'I want to be like her'. 

I also won't be made to feel guilty for loving my curves and wobbly bits, I feel like in today's society it's seen as arrogant and big headed to love yourself, but it's time that changed, it's time we started to love ourselves, flaws and all. 

Lots of Love, 

Becky x x


  1. Beautifully written :)! And yes who cares about the thigh gap anyway, as quoted 'we are just one step being closer to a mermaid' haha! xx

    kathryns.cupcakes.blogspot.co.uk xx

  2. No one cares about thigh gaps anyway! A while ago there was a bitchy image being nasty about girls with thigh gaps which is just as horrible! If everyone was a little kinder to each other, we'd have less body confidence issues! The things I don't like people don't notice on me either - I think I have really skinny ankles and sticky out shoulder blades! Bit weird I know :P everyone is so gorgeous in their own way, it's when people are bitter and bitchy that they seem so ugly! xo
    amber love

  3. What a beautiful post! I totally agree that everyone should love themselves otherwise accepting love from others is hard. Society needs to accept that people come in all kinds of different shapes and sizes, all beautiful and all worthy of love.

  4. I laughed at the hot pants and a crop top in the club thing because I loved this look for so long and we are a similar size, so I had the same insecurities as you. I found a pair of super highwaisted disco pants that are super flattering and because of the high waist crop tops don't leave too much too see belly wise. It was definitely an achievement to rock a look I wasn't sure I'd feel confident in, I definitely recommend trying to find pieces that work for you.


  5. Lovely post girl, wish i had the confidence to feel the same!
    xprincessjas | ♥

  6. I LOVEEEE this post, and so glad you have written it! I will never have a thigh gap either, and definitely don't think we should feel ashamed or embarassed, although I did have someone call me fat last friday when I was out in the daytime in jeans and a coat and I WAS humiliated, I think it's just what we feel happy with in our skin not anyone else! xxxx

    Blonde of carbs

  7. This is great to read. I think things like this demonstrate being a mature woman, hopefully i'm nearly there :)

    Sophie x

  8. I love this. I put on a few pounds in my last semester at uni (stress eating eh!) and went from a size 8-10, to a 10-12 and literally just panicked and was so busy thinking how fat I was, that I was calorie counting and then binging and it's just recently I've taken a look at what I've been dong to myself and thinking what? I'm trying to focus on accepting myself now and making healthy choices when I can, and I already feel better being in my own skin. It's awful that thinking we're fat can do shit like this to the way we think!

    India / Touchscreens & Beautyqueens


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